Last time I spoke to Rolando, Babele bookshop’s manager, was in January when I shameless flirted with him (look at his picture in this post and you’ll understand why): because he doesn’t drink coffee I wanted him to come with me for a tea and we ended drinking one at the bookshop.
That nice and friendly place, in Milan’s city center, was marked in the night between Thursday and Friday with fascist symbols and homophobic slogans, one of them in German language gay raus (=gays get out, although Germans would rather write Schwule raus).
Some more days ago a 16 yo boy killed himself because his schoolmates perceived him as homosexual and mistreated him.
This happened in Italy, my fatherland, a EU co-founder.
Oh, homophobia was always part of typical Italian do-it-but-don’t-say-it culture: it has always been a taboo, even the 1938’s racist laws didn’t mention the homosexuals, they barely existed.
But in the last time the glbt-problem raised exponentially: since the Italian government proclaimed its version of civil unions (DICO) there’s a huge campaign against homosexuals supported by the right-wing coalition, part of the left-wing government itself and (last but not least) the Vatican.
Look but don’t touch. Touch, but don’t taste. Taste, don’t swallow.
A week ago, for instance, Angelo Bagnasco (president of the Italian Episcopal Conference) stated that this law was the first step into legalizing bigamy, pedophilia or whatever and has to be stopped. Pierferdinando Casini (leader of UDC party, former president of Italian lower house of parliament, possible successor to Berlusconi as leader of the right-wing coalition, catholic fundamentalist, father of children from two different women) agreed with Bangasco.
These are, unfortunately, only examples, but I’m not surprised: Italy is simply getting worse and worse.
I could really understand the young boy who killed himself: I was also perceived as homosexual at the school just because I had the best notes. My classmates were actually right, I am and I was gay (since I was 6, as far as I remember) but this is not the point: gay, should not be an offense.
But I also know that the first homophobic people are gays: the ones who feel ashamed of themselves. This is why I always avoided to hide my homosexuality with different degrees of maturity: I first came out only with my best friends, then with all the people in my environment and now I simply don’t need coming outs anymore, when I appreciate a man on the street people understand I’m gay. This is the way it should be. But this is quite impossible in a country where I cannot air a tv commercial because it contains the word gay.
Anyway, I’m glad that people like Bagnasco or Casini said what they said: this is what they think, it could be not politically correct but it’s the truth. Stop with I respect homosexuals, stop with I have a lot of gay friends, stop with they have just to make it at home: the first guy I told I was homosexual (a physics student alas) replied I was not right as well as killers or pedophiles.
Sons of a bitch, be ballsy, say it out loud and go to hell!
I don’t care about you
I don’t care about you